Life Coaches, Pychology, Prayer
When events happen in life the trend is to "talk to someone" to help you through rough times. When I was growing up in the '60's &and '70's, I experienced many life altering events that would shake many to the core. We were taught that the time of these happens to pray and basically "get on with life". I know now that I probably would or could have benefited from having some type of council sessions, especial at a young age. As young kids, it can be difficult to navigate through "adult" type situations and just end up being okay. I believe, in my life, I have experienced an overwhelming and most unusual amount of these type events. Most people, I would image, experience "hard times", but in my life they came fast and furious, with no outside help. I was taught and still believe in God and prayer as the ultimate answer and place to turn when in need of help. I always give all the praise to the Almighty for all I have and all my many blessing, God has and will always be my strength. I do however believe now, looking back, a little direction in how to move forward after a catastrophic life event or multiple, would have been of great service to me.
On and off the subject, I believe that as small children, one needs much direction. We have to be directed in many ways with feeling and how to deal with them. We can talk about the bully epidemic later, but I know that when my oldest son was very young he was bulled for various reasons. I think a major help to him was talking to the school psychologist and having direct his negative energies in positive ways. The thing I am not sure of is if he understood the reason why he was removed from the playground and brought in at lunchtime to tutor younger kids at school. Also, there were times, many as I remember, where I would be in trouble and did things that angered my dad and I would then be punished and sent to my room. When I asked why, his response was usually, "because I said so." We were not taught to ask why. I think it is essential for kids to understand there feeling, behaviors and the actions that need to be taken to move forward.
My parents, although they taught try to direct us, did not explain the reasons we were doing these actions or perhaps I just didn't grasp. But I think and believe that kids should know the "whys". I know my dad would take us to "bad areas" of town to play with under privileged children, I remember taking clothes to donate and then playing basketball with these random African American skinny kids that were at the gym. Perhaps it was me that did not ask the questions why are we here. After my cousins and Uncle's accident where they were all killed in a plane crash, I don't remember talking to anyone about how to take this in, where do we go from here. And then just a few years later when my oldest brother was killed in a car accident, again I remember know direction on how to deal with the impact this had on my life. So then when my husband had his accident another few years later, I was completely numb, and just went on with life like nothing happened. This is not a blame game, I am not blaming my parents on how they handle us in life. As an adult I see that they had their own struggles with these events and had to figure out things for themselves. But it left us kids in the dust.
I do believe in praying to God when troubled and with praise. I also now see the greater need of the tools to coach us through life, discussion and understanding with outside views. God gave people the gift to communicate with one another so I suggest we take advantage of other fellow beings in our lives.
On and off the subject, I believe that as small children, one needs much direction. We have to be directed in many ways with feeling and how to deal with them. We can talk about the bully epidemic later, but I know that when my oldest son was very young he was bulled for various reasons. I think a major help to him was talking to the school psychologist and having direct his negative energies in positive ways. The thing I am not sure of is if he understood the reason why he was removed from the playground and brought in at lunchtime to tutor younger kids at school. Also, there were times, many as I remember, where I would be in trouble and did things that angered my dad and I would then be punished and sent to my room. When I asked why, his response was usually, "because I said so." We were not taught to ask why. I think it is essential for kids to understand there feeling, behaviors and the actions that need to be taken to move forward.
My parents, although they taught try to direct us, did not explain the reasons we were doing these actions or perhaps I just didn't grasp. But I think and believe that kids should know the "whys". I know my dad would take us to "bad areas" of town to play with under privileged children, I remember taking clothes to donate and then playing basketball with these random African American skinny kids that were at the gym. Perhaps it was me that did not ask the questions why are we here. After my cousins and Uncle's accident where they were all killed in a plane crash, I don't remember talking to anyone about how to take this in, where do we go from here. And then just a few years later when my oldest brother was killed in a car accident, again I remember know direction on how to deal with the impact this had on my life. So then when my husband had his accident another few years later, I was completely numb, and just went on with life like nothing happened. This is not a blame game, I am not blaming my parents on how they handle us in life. As an adult I see that they had their own struggles with these events and had to figure out things for themselves. But it left us kids in the dust.
I do believe in praying to God when troubled and with praise. I also now see the greater need of the tools to coach us through life, discussion and understanding with outside views. God gave people the gift to communicate with one another so I suggest we take advantage of other fellow beings in our lives.
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