Toxic People

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This morning my mind is on toxic people that are in our lives, in my life and the big question I have is how to deal with them.  What do I mean by toxic, I think we all know that toxic means poisonous but what does this mean as far as relationships?

This is easy as far as my dating life.  If I meet someone and see bad behavior patterns I am not going to continue dating that person.  I have no need to keep them in my life so I would obviously break off with that man and say goodbye.

The next level would be friends.  Sometimes we develop friendships and really enjoy their company for a while or a long time.  Again, if that person was dragging you down, belittling or berating you, you certainly would need to reexamine this friendship as far as how often you would want to see or spend time with them.

The most difficult relationships in our lives are our families.  When a member of the  family is toxic in your life do you ignore the behavior because they are your family member and forgive or is it time to say good bye?  I struggle with this in my life.  I have had many situations where family members have struggled and needed my help  either financially or emotionally  and I have always tried to be there for them no matter what, because that's what a good family member, Christian person would do.  Right???  But when do we say enough is enough??  You have made my life a living mess and now I am seeking help or counseling because of this negative energy you have brought to my life.  Most the time I would like to think over time we can forgive and move on and love one another completely.  But what about the relative that has serious issues for years upon years and seems not to care about your feeling and needs and never ever gives back??  You constantly see this person hurting your most valued loved ones without a conscience?  I am very sorry to say although I will always have a place in my heart and pray for them it is more than time to say our good byes and cut them out of our lives.  Now don't yell at me, this may and probably is not a concrete thing, but for the time being and can not engage and spend any more effort on this person. 

With love to all my loved ones!

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